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10 Things One GrandDad Wishes Every Dad Knew


Listen my son to a father's instruction; pay attention and gain understanding.
(Prov. 4:1)

Forty-five years ago I became a father for the first time. At age 22 I was as green and wet behind the ears as you can get when it came to being a father. I didn’t know much but I was foolish enough to believe I could pretty much figure it out on my own. I wish I had known what I know now, and really sought the wisdom and counsel of my Dad and other godly men more often. After all, my Da and Mom raised six kids. I think they might have known a thing or two about parenting.

But the sad truth is that I almost never went to my Dad and asked his advise, and that was a mistake. So, now as a grandfather, I am going to take it upon myself to say what my father probably wishes he could have said. So, grandfathers, maybe you can find a way to share this post with your sons or sons-in-law and invite their feedback. If you’re a young dad, I hope you put these ten things into practice for your sake and your family’s sake.

So, here goes…


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Grand-Bits From GrandCamp

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GrandPause: Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength… (Isa. 40:31)

“I just want to keep coming to GrandCamp forever,” eight year-old Kate shared with me. Now in our seventeenth year of GrandCamp® programs, I’ve heard that statement many times from the grandchildren who come with their grandparents.

This week we completed the second of our three GrandCamp® programs this summer, this one in Estes Park, Colorado. This year’s theme, ON WINGS LIKE EAGLES, is based upon Isaiah 40:31 – “Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint.” I was overjoyed by the enthusiasm with which these grandchildren and their grandparents took this to heart. From Scripture memorization to team competitions, they did it all with vigor. Children love to learn, and they love learning God’s Word with their grandparents.

After seventeen years I never cease to be amazed by the way God works in lives. Children and grandparents come from all types of home situations.

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Retirement Stop or Rest Area?

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If you’ve done any traveling this summer you have undoubtedly seen those welcome signs along the Interstate that say Rest Area. These strategically placed signs allow the traveler to take a respite from the journey to be refreshed before continuing on. Rest Areas, however, are not designed as destination points—only temporary rest stops.

God has intentionally placed Rest Stop signs in our life journey as well. They serve as a welcome and necessary reminder of our need to refocus our perspective. Sabbath days, holidays, vacations, and retirement are rest stops at which we have the opportunity to put into practice Psalm 46:10: Be still and know that I am God

For those of us at that stage of life known as mid-life and beyond (with an emphasis on beyond), remember this: God will never place in our path a sign that says Retirement Stop - Exit Here

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Do Your Choices Matter?

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Life is about choices. In Jesus’ parable of the rich fool, the man in his story chose not to involve God in his decisions. Notice his response to the great wealth he accumulated:

“He thought to himself, ‘What shall I do?...
This is what I’ll do…
I’ll say to myself…”  (Luke 12:16-19)

Do you see it? Not once did the rich fool ask God what he should do with this newly acquired extravagant wealth. He forgot that it was God who blessed him with an abundant crop. Instead of building barns for himself, he might have chosen to use it to bless others. But he chose to not acknowledge God’s blessing or involve God in his choices about what to do with all that he had received. He lost sight of the fact that God is always involved whether we want Him to be or not.

So, how do we teach our grandchildren to make good choices in life? It starts with the choices we make. If we go through life making important decisions without involving God, why would we expect that our grandchildren would do anything differently? The choices we make about everything God has given us, and what He asks us to do communicate the value we truly place on God’s wisdom and purposes for us. The rich fool thought he could choose his own course without God’s input, but God had other plans. Do you ever do the same?

Freedom is not about choosing to do whatever I want to do, but choosing God’s perfect way.  Choosing how I use my retirement years—how I spend myself to bless others and fulfill God’s purposes for me—reveal whether God is involved in my choices or not. In the end, God will always be involved. The question is whether His involvement is because I choose to surrender to Him. It’s my choice, and your choice…and it is a choice that will speak volumes to our grandchildren about our heart.

Here are three practical ways to help you evaluate whether the choices you habitually make reflect the degree to which your life is rich towards God (vs. 21):

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What Is Liberty?

GrandPause: Liberty is God's gift; liberties the devil’s.
(German proverb)

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Abraham Lincoln used the wolf and the sheep to illustrate the conundrum people often face when it comes to the application of liberty. The shepherd, Mr. Lincoln noted, drives the wolf from the sheep, for which the sheep thanks the shepherd as his liberator, while the wolf denounces him for the same act as the destroyer of liberty. Plainly, the sheep and the wolf are not agreed upon a definition of liberty.

As reflected in the German proverb above, we often confuse liberty and liberties. Self-centered, irresponsible people interpret liberty to mean whatever they please without any constraint by laws or rules of nature. This is, in fact, a prevalent attitude in politics and many discussions of individual liberty as described in the US Constitution.

True liberty is a mostly misunderstood concept in our day. Liberty is never about personal rights as much as it personal responsibilities for the good of others. It’s what Jesus modeled for us when he emptied Himself of His rights of equality with God to become a servant for our benefit. Liberty is being free to do that which is right and makes much of God’s goodness and greatness.

As we approach our annual Fourth of July celebrations as a nation, I thought it might be good for us to look back at the wisdom and insights of those whose views would be worth our further consideration and dialogue. These are truths we would do well to ponder, model and discuss with our grandchildren so that they are not tempted to redefine the meaning of liberty for their own purposes—like so many do today.

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  • Grand-Bits From GrandCamp

    07.26.2015 08:00
    P.S. Thank you for recommending Mark Batterson's book, "Praying Circles Around Your Children", for ...


  • Grand-Bits From GrandCamp

    07.26.2015 07:55
    We are thrilled that your GC campers continue to experience such an awesome week! We just completed our ...


  • Do Your Choices Matter?

    07.12.2015 12:01
    How silly of me, there is a link!!


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