As a grandparent of five teenage grandchildren, I am learning some painful things about teen rebellion with at least one of them. I also notice a correlation between rebelliousness in my teenage grandchildren and the degree to which they were taught manners.
Trace Embry, founder and Executive Director of Shepherd’s Hill Academy and radio host for License to Parent agrees. His insights given to parents on this subject are equally important for us as grandparents. Trace recently did a blog post and radio feature concerning the impact teaching manners can have on the escalating problem of teen rebellion. Manners are not consistently taught in many homes, and I believe grandparents can pick up the slack to help in this area.
Read (and listen) to what Trace has to say. Then reply in my comment section of this post to let me know how his thoughts have impacted you, and what you are doing to build character through good manners in your own grandchildren.
Manners Help Teens Think of Others
When I was younger, I never understood the importance of good manners. But, now that I work with a team of people in helping at-risk youth, I understand the importance of simple manners that this generation knows little about [CONTINUE READING]
LIFE HAPPENS… and there is no denying that at times life can feel heavy and hard to bear. Yet, Jesus said, Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28). Can you relate to feeling weary or burdened? I certainly have felt that way recently. Jesus promises more than physical rest from the weariness of hard work or difficult times. It is a rest for the soul that lifts the burdens of life.
It almost sounds too good to be true.
If you watch the Olympics, you are undoubtedly keenly aware of the significance of time in certain events like downhill skiing and speed skating. A medal is often determined by a mere 1/100th of a second. It gives new meaning the phrase every second counts.
That is true in the race of life as well. Paul’s instructions to ‘redeem the time’ in Ephesians 5, could also be translated “purchase” or “buy” the time you have because it is valuable and must be spent wisely. Purchasing time implies a higher purpose for it, not simply using it as we please. We certainly have that freedom, but to waste it on something for which it was not intended is a fool’s errand.
Those who compete in the Games know that if they spend their time doing only what they want to do—what is easy and comfortable—they would become an Olympic champion. Rather they submit to their coach who dictates how their time should be used for the best results. Followers of Christ submit to the Lord Jesus because He knows best how to achieve the Father’s purpose. When we use it as He directs, that is the way of wisdom and the crown of life.
So what steps can we take to redeem or purchase the time we have? Here are seven suggestions to help you spend time well:
You’ve seen the bumper stickers on the back of a large RV truckin’ down the highway. It reads, “I’m spending my kids’ inheritance.” You may smile when you see it, but it’s really nothing to smile about. Translated, the message being sent is “I’m living for myself and nobody else, including my kids and grandkids.”
I get increasingly impatient with adults of my generation and beyond who choose to spend their lives and assets on themselves while investing almost nothing of themselves in the lives of the next generations. Don’t get me wrong. I am all for some much deserved rest and relaxation, even in an RV if that’s your thing. On the other hand, it’s hard to justify wasting life on frivolous ventures while ignoring God’s mandated responsibility to use what He has given us to see that none of these little ones Jesus refers to in Matthew 18 perish. How are you spending your life for the next generations?