It is possible to be intentional about many good things. Some grandparents, for example, are very intentional about loving their grandchildren and helping them be successful. Many are intentional about making sure their grandkids always have a good time at their house. Some grandparents are very intentional about trying to win their grandkids’ approval and attention (not necessarily a good thing). I could go on and on.
Most of these things have value and may be good things if not motivated by self-serving intentions. Good grandparents want their relationships with their grandchildren, and adult children, to be good. But is there an intentionality that goes much deeper than simply being liked? Do you believe there is more to being a biblical grandparent than having a good time with your grandkids or teaching them some basic facts about life?
“My dad was never there.” “My dad was abusive, angry and critical.” “My dad was an alcoholic and addicted to porn.” “My dad loved his work more than his family.”
Perhaps you’ve heard statements like these. Some may describe your father... or perhaps one or more describe you. Why would I bring up such dark and depressing things on Father’s Day? Because dads matter, and it’s important that you understand how much you matter as a dad or granddad. More than 75% of all men in our prison system come from fatherless homes. Many more young men live in the equivalent of a fatherless home because Dad is passive and uninvolved. He provides little evidence to his sons of what it means to be a real man.
But, it’s not all bad news.
We’re all familiar with it. You probably have a plague or door knocker that proclaims it. It’s Joshua 24:15 – As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord forever.
Could your grandchildren and adult children affirm that this declaration is definitely practiced in your home, or would they see hypocrisy? Would they say your home is a place where God is honored and magnified above all?
Have you ever questioned your ability to make a difference in someone else’s life, especially if that life is one of your children or grandchildren? Are you watching a teenage grandchild or adult child making poor choices and wandering from the faith, and wondering whether your prayers really matter? If you do, you’re not alone.
Perhaps the following true story will encourage you to not give up. It has certainly reminded me of how important our prayers really are.
Growing up in a Christian home, attending church regularly, even attending a Christian school—none of these things guarantee a genuine faith we could call our own. That was John’s reality until the day his boys’ Bible class teacher announced a special Christmas project on the last day before Christmas break.
Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you…
Do you ever struggle with questions of faith—questions like, “Is Christianity really true?” or, “What difference does it make in my life to believe the resurrection really happened?” My guess is your grandchildren most certainly wrestle with questions like these. If you’re honest, so have you.
John Stonestreet, commentator on the Colson Center’s BreakPoint, recently talked about questions of faith and an event held by Nancy Fitzgerald, author and creator of the Anchorsaway worldview course. Nancy hosted the event for parents and their students who studied with her for a semester. While the students finished their final class, Nancy spoke with the parents.
She asked how many of them had questions about the validity of Christianity, questions that most of their students readily admitted having. No one responded. When she assured them it was okay to have questions, slowly hands began to go up.
One mom said, “I didn’t know we could ask questions; I was taught not to.” Another said, “I didn’t know there were answers to such questions. I have thought about that stuff but never knew anyone who could answer them.”
Think about it. There’s something terribly tragic when
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