Leaving A Legacy Of Honesty

“Honesty guides good people; dishonesty destroys treacherous people.” Proverbs 11:3

Do you remember “Not Me” in the comic strip Family Circus — the ghost-looking character responsible for broken lamps, spilled food, missing cookies and muddy footprints on the kitchen floor? Even now, isn’t it tempting to pin a mistake, an accident or a poor decision on “Not Me”?

Being honest can be hard.  But owning up to our mistakes reflects your character…and your faith…both of which you want your grandchildren to see and mimic.

Since God cannot lie, He sets the example for our behavior. He wants us to do the same with our grandkids, illustrating the behavior we expect from them.

What a disservice we do to our grandchildren if we fail to share about our struggles or are unwilling to tackle uncomfortable topics! We need to create an environment where children are free to express their true emotions so they learn how to deal with them effectively. And, this doesn’t just apply to your grandchildren.

Children in military families who have a deployed parent often are afraid to share their honest emotions—those of fear, abandonment, and anger— because they don’t want to inflict pain on those around them. But suppressing these feelings can turn into illness, acting out or withdrawal.

You have the opportunity to provide these children with a safe environment to deal honestly with the wide range of emotions sparked by having a deployed parent. When you sponsor a military child and one set of their grandparents at Military Kids GrandCamp, you offer an experience and a support network which teaches the value of living a life of integrity.

And when the next person asks those children if they feel all alone, they can honestly answer “Not Me”!

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The Legacy of Blessing

“and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing.
I will bless those who bless you…and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you."

Bless, blessing, bless, bless, blessed.

I’ve heard from marketing professionals that if you want to make a point, you need to say something three times. Well, they must have made a great pitch to God before He wrote Genesis 12. In two verses He uses a form of “bless” no fewer than five times! His message must be of tantamount importance.

Did you notice a pattern? There are three distinct timeframes, your present, your past and your future. Most importantly, it all starts with God.

Have you ever taken the time to evaluate Genesis 12 as it pertains to your life? Do you recognize how God is blessing you today? Who in your past has blessed you abundantly? Who are you a blessing to?

As a grandparent, you have a tremendous impact on your grandchildren. In fact, studies show that your grandkids have better social skills and academic achievement as a result of your regular involvement in their lives.

Hmmm…that almost sounds Biblical—because you’ve blessed your grandkids through your intentional involvement, they are blessing others.

There is a group of children who are having trouble recognizing the blessing in their lives. Military kids, who have been affected by a parent’s deployment, struggle with feelings of fear and abandonment, sometimes going so far as thinking that they are cursed.

Will you bless these children? Through Military Kids GrandCamp the grandparents of these children are equipped with the best tools to be a blessing to their grandkids. When you sponsor a military child and one set of their grandparents at Military Kids GrandCamp, you provide them both with an experience which allows them to be blessed and become a blessing.

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While most of us understand the dilemma of deciding which set of parents we will be spending time with at Christmas each year, imagine the struggle that millions of children and young adults will face this year who are the children of our no-fault divorce generation, assuming they even have a relationship with one of their parents.

We have long endured the lies of "experts" that divorce really has little long term impact on the feelings of rejection and emotional scars for children of divorce. Now we know the truth.

Yet, though divorce rates have slightly decreased recently, the church has been largely impotent to stem the tide of rampant divorce even among its own. While divorce recovery classes and workshops abound, minimal effort is given to teaching and equipping our young people for life-long commitments in marriage. We seem unable to identify the issues and wounds that the children of divorce face, and to help them find healing and hope.

If you have ever played a card game involving the use of a "trump" card or suit, you know the frustration of playing what you think is a winning hand only to have it trumped by someone else. Now is the time for Christians to play our "trump card" -- our belief in an all powerful and loving God.

Kristine Steakley recently wrote Child of Divorce, Child of God, a book that will be a wonderful resource to help families with divorced children understand that our destiny is not dependent upon our resilience, but upon a foundational understanding of who God really is.

As grandparents, we know all about the ravages of divorce, even as Christians. If you are living with the reality of divorce in your family, this is a place where "intentionality" is crucial. We are in a unique position to help our grandchildren of divorce find healing and hope. But it means we must build a solid framework of truth about the God who IS, and that He really does care about the burdens and wounds they bear.

I urge you to pick up a copy of Steakley's book and re-examine your own view of the God. Be ready to lead your grandchildren into an amazing and authentic understanding of who God really is, and that He really wants to "reparent" us to repair our brokenness and restore relationships.

The legacy of divorce does not have end in defeat. It's time to trump the play and restore the legacy that God intended we should leave for future generations. This Christmas give a gift of hope. Worship Him who is Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Prince of Peace, and EVERLASTING FATHER.

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